Multiple studies over the years have shown that the one talk most people dread to have with elderly relatives if the one about giving up driving. The freedom that is associated with the ability to drive runs strong in America and is reluctantly given up by those that have it. Because of this, understandably, it often takes sitting down with a loved one and explaining the dangers that continuing to drive poses in order to get them to stop. When having the talk, the most important thing to keep in mind is the perceived loss of independence and dignity that comes with being home bound. As a result, it is best to broach the subject gently and avoid using shame or blame in order to get the driver to hang up the keys for good. Instead, come prepared with examples of the decline in driving ability to convey that a serious concern exist and it is not based on unfounded fears. Many people recognize when they are in decline and a gentle nudge will accomplish much more than an aggressive assault designed to get them out from behind the wheel.
See Jullie Gray, AGING PARENTS AND DRIVING: HAVING THE TOUGH CONVERSATION, Aging Life Care, November 12, 2015.
Special thanks to Brian Cohan (Attorney at Law, Law Offices of Brian J. Cohan, P.C.) for bringing this article to my attention.
